Dancing with Abandon

My little dancer

My little dancer

Azita has always loved dancing. When she was an infant she would bob her head a little, flail her arms and wiggle around as best as she could whenever she would hear a beat. Most of her dancing since she started walking has consisted of her walking, running or galloping around in a circle. Occasionally, believe it or not, she actually plays air guitar. Don’t look at me. She learned it from Muno on Yo Gabba Gabba. Honest. I only play air guitar in private.

Lately, however, her dancing has taken a different tone. She is more expressive in her movements. She moves her arms in slow waving motions, sometimes even flexing and pointing her fingers while turning her hand like only a budding Bollywood dancer could.

At times she seems to be doing her best impression of Martha Graham. She moves her torso slowly from side to side, lunging in an opposing motion. Occasionally she lifts a leg off to the side or the back, keeping her toes perfectly pointed. It’s an amazing thing, and I can’t help but get ridiculously happy when she’s dancing.

Inevitably I end up dancing with her. This is impressive mostly because I am the very definition of a wallflower when it comes to dancing. I will do almost anything to avoid it. I have been known to play a little tug of war with family members who have tried to pull me out onto the dance floor at parties. I know it looks ridiculous when I do this, but I feel even more ridiculous when I dance. I just know people are laughing at me.

When Azita dances, though, I forget about all of that. I sing along with the music. She grabs my hands, and we dance together. I don’t care who is looking, nor do I care what they think. We dance with abandon. And it’s the best feeling in the world.

Gustafer Yellowgold

This past Saturday we took Azita to her second show at one of our local music joints, Jammin Java. Both Roger and I tend to like indie music more than popular, overly-produced stuff. This is not to say that we don’t like Coldplay or bands like Wilco that are a lot more popular and produced than when we first fell in like with them. But really, there’s something about a self-produced song that holds a lot more charm than music that’s been claimed by the major music labels.

We’re doing our best to give Azita just such an appreciation for music. This is mostly because I think I may slit my wrists if she ever asks me to take her to a Hannah Montana or Britney Spears concert. I just can’t have it. There’s a little more selfishness to our madness, though. We both love live music, and I hate to leave Azita on a weekend to go off to a show when I already see so little of her.

Jammin Java and many small music venues in the area have presented a solution to our dilemma — children’s shows that adults can love on weekend mornings and afternoons and on weekdays before the 11pm crowd we were once a part of takes over the place. On Saturday, we caught a musical act that more than fits this bill. Gustafer Yellowgold.

This is happy and haunting music. It sticks with you. Two days later, I am still humming these tunes. And kids love it too. Azita literally climbed up on a table and started dancing, and I’m not using the word “literally” in that annoying way that people tend to use it. I really mean “literally.” As in, she was sitting on a table and swaying, kicking her feet, moving her arms and bobbing her head to the music. It was pretty awesome, and it made us laugh so infectiously you could almost see bubbles of laughter floating over the audience making everyone else laugh also.

Not only was the music pretty awesome, but it was accompanied by stop-frame animation. So it was that we learned the story of Gustafer Yellowgold, who comes from the sun and now lives in St. Cloud, Minnesota with his best friend, Slimothy the eel. Over the course of an hour, their lives were sung and illustrated more lyrically and whimsically than anything I’ve ever seen.

Critics have compared this show to the Yellow Submarine, but I think it was far more sublime.

Gustafer Yellowgold. Remember the name, and go buy the CD/DVD set immediately. This is a commandment. You will love it.

Raindrops on Roses…

I can’t even count the number of times when I was pregnant that people told me I should enjoy movies, reading, eating out, etc. then when I was still childless, since the birth of my daughter would basically suck all the joy out of my life. Well, I’m happy to say just shy of a year later, that they were wrong. I’ve enjoyed a lot of things this year, and here’s a list of a few of my favorite things from the year.

Books

  • The Year of the Flood, by Margaret Atwood
    I think this is one of Margaret Atwood’s best books since The Handmaid’s Tale, one of my all time favorites. It takes place in a futuristic world overrun by genetically modified creatures and toxins, and it is narrated by two members of God’s Gardeners, a religious sect awaiting the “waterless flood.” This is one of those books that makes me feel a little sad when I reach the end, because I wish it wasn’t over. I know this is utterly ignorant of me, but I discovered on finishing this book that it is the follow-up to Oryx and Crake, which I have been told is even better. It is next on my reading list, and I’m actually a little excited to get to it.
  • Shadow of the Wind, by Carlos Ruiz Zafon
    This is the first non-baby book I read after Azita was born. As I lay awake feeding her or pumping or rocking her, I would read this book and get sucked in to Franco’s Spain. It was mesmerizing, and it reaffirmed my obsession with the country. This is a book about books and the love and passion they can inspire in people. Anyone who loves to read must read it. I know I will be reading again more than once.

Music

  • You Are My Flower, Elizabeth Mitchell
    This is a children’s music album, but I promise you it has charm for adults also. Elizabeth Mitchell introduces children to the greats, from Elizabeth Cotten to Bob Marley to the Velvet Underground. And, her original songs are pretty great also. She has a sweet, melodic voice that for a few months was my surefire way to get Azita to stop crying, and seemed to calm me down a little as well. I loved it so much that we bought all of her CDs and also took Azita to see her live when she came to town this fall. So amazing is Elizabeth Mitchell that she even managed to keep our 9 month old baby entertained and in her seat for the entire hour. I nearly cried.
  • Welcome to Mali, Amadou et Mariam
    I discovered Amadou et Mariam a few years ago through Manu Chao, who once described their music as having “an immense sweetness and gentleness” to it and “an enormous sense of humanity.” I couldn’t agree more. Even when you don’t understand the words (although if you have even a little French you probably can understand a great deal), you can really feel what they are saying. Their album, Welcome to Mali, was actually released last year, but it one that I listened to over and over all year. Even if you think you aren’t a fan of African blues-rock, you should give this album a try. You may find that you actually are.
  • For Emma, Forever Ago, Bon Iver
    This was my favorite album last year, and it remains my favorite album this year. It’s that good. Please listen to it if you haven’t. That’s all I have to say about that.

Movies

  • Star Trek
    If you know me, I don’t really have to say anything about this. You already knew this would be one of my favorites.
  • Serenity
    I know I’m late to the game, but I finally got around to watching Firefly (thanks to the urgings of numerous friends, including Cara from The Land of Bean). I am watching Serenity literally as I write this, and I don’t even need to get to the end to tell you that this is one of my favorite movies from this year.

TV

  • Firefly
    A space western that is, dare I say, better than the original Star Trek? It is. I love the overtly Western stylings juxtaposed with the futuristic space aspect, and the storylines and writing are both superb. I wouldn’t expect anything less from Joss Whedon though, so I guess this is hardly a surprise either. Although it is quite surprising that I haven’t watched this until now.
  • True Blood
    Yet another show I am a little late to, but I am truly obsessed. It’s a little quirky and a little dark all at once, and it has the Southern gothic flavor to boot. I think it’s pretty clear now that Alan Ball is not a one-hit wonder.

Food

  • Tarte Tatin
    I made my first tarte tatin this year, and was inspired by My Persian Kitchen to Persianize the recipe. I don’t usually experiment with a new recipe the first time I make it, but I just couldn’t help it with this one. And I’m glad I did, because the results were pretty spectacular with this one. Then again, there’s not much that can’t be improved with a little saffron and cardamom.
  • Vegetarian Cotlet
    This year for Sizdeh Bedar I attempted to make a vegetarian version of a food many Iranians would name as their ultimate comfort food — cotlet. It is a breaded and fried cutlet of ground beef and mashed potatoes. I always think of cotlet as picnic food, so it seemed natural to attempt this recipe for the ultimate picnic. I’ll just say that the cotlets were almost gone before I even tried my first one, and not one person who ate them knew they were vegetarian. I’ll promise to post a recipe sometime soon — something Roger will appreciate since that will mean that I have to make them again.

Elizabeth Mitchell Saves Our World

This past weekend I had one of those moments where I felt like there would never be a time in my life where I wasn’t suffering a setback.  I’ve had a lot of good times in my life, but like just about everyone else I’ve had a lot of bad times too.  Lately I’ve been thinking that things are so great. Then last Saturday morning happens, and it was clear that Roger and I had another major setback in our journey towards our goals. It sucked. It really really sucked all kinds of unsavory things, and I’ll admit that I cried.

And I felt really down and sorry for myself. Down enough so that we canceled all our plans for Saturday, and instead we did the one thing that usually makes us feel better when life isn’t going our way — worked really hard. We cleared out our storage unit. We did loads and loads of laundry. We cooked. We cleaned. We rolled our sleeves up and exhausted ourselves, but I still stayed up all night worrying myself awake.

Then Sunday rolled around. We had tickets to take Azita to her first show — Elizabeth Mitchell live at Jammin Java. Azita loves Elizabeth Mitchell. While she can’t really voice her musical preferences yet, I assume she loves her because whenever she’s crying we just need to pop in some Elizabeth Mitchell and she’s suddenly smiling and cooing. The sudden turnaround is really miraculous actually. Turns out that a little Elizabeth Mitchell is good for Azita’s parents also.

As we sat there at Jammin Java worrying about life as we waited for the show to start, kids were running up and down the aisles. They were laughing and screaming and crying and singing, and Azita stared in wonder. Her head flipped back and forth trying to take it all in. Her eyes were giant saucers. Her mouth was fixed in a big grin. She giggled. She cooed. She shrieked with delight. And then  Elizabeth Mitchell got on stage and started singing.

And Azita began to wave her hands and smack them on her leg to the beat of the music. It was then that I knew it would all be ok. There really are few things that can be a setback now. Azita is in my life, and that means that I will always be exactly where I want to be.

Worried Man

It is my job — my singular task in this world now — to provide my child with food, shelter, safety and unconditional love. To give her all that is necessary to survive and thrive in this world. So when I woke up at 3:37 am a few nights ago — covered in sweat, with a raging headache and a cold, cold fear in my heart — I wasn’t about to ignore the cause of my concern.

What would I do if my daughter liked the Stones more than The Beatles?

I’ve struggled with this question for nearly a week. It weighs heavy on my mind.

And it’s a choice she will have to make  on her own. I cannot help. When she is of the right age — I’d say around 8, maybe 7 (she’s shown signs of advanced musical tastes) — she will stop her iPod, take off her headphones and look over at me. “Baba, Aren’t the Stones just a really good cover band?”

“Yes they are princess. Yes they are. Now go get Rubber Soul from the top shelf in the library so we can hear how it was intended to be heard.”