Maman? Monkey? What’s the Difference?

I am obsessed with good bargains. This is what lead me to Mamabargains.com and Eco Baby Buys, and this is what led me to The Jungle Grapevine alphabet flash cards. They are pretty and whimsical, and I couldn’t resist them. And they were a bargain, of course. Azita loved them almost instantly. She points at each card and babbles, mostly incoherently. Most of the animals are pretty exotic after all. Like Xenopus Toad. Or Yellow-billed Stork. Roger and I can barely pronounce the names of these creatures.

Azita’s favorite is a monkey called the Uacari. She gets really excited when she sees it. Very excited. She points at it, and laughs. And she says “Maman!” as she’s pointing to it.

Maman.

Apparently I remind her of a red-faced monkey.

Uacari

I don’t know. I guess I can see the resemblance.

Dancing with Abandon

My little dancer

My little dancer

Azita has always loved dancing. When she was an infant she would bob her head a little, flail her arms and wiggle around as best as she could whenever she would hear a beat. Most of her dancing since she started walking has consisted of her walking, running or galloping around in a circle. Occasionally, believe it or not, she actually plays air guitar. Don’t look at me. She learned it from Muno on Yo Gabba Gabba. Honest. I only play air guitar in private.

Lately, however, her dancing has taken a different tone. She is more expressive in her movements. She moves her arms in slow waving motions, sometimes even flexing and pointing her fingers while turning her hand like only a budding Bollywood dancer could.

At times she seems to be doing her best impression of Martha Graham. She moves her torso slowly from side to side, lunging in an opposing motion. Occasionally she lifts a leg off to the side or the back, keeping her toes perfectly pointed. It’s an amazing thing, and I can’t help but get ridiculously happy when she’s dancing.

Inevitably I end up dancing with her. This is impressive mostly because I am the very definition of a wallflower when it comes to dancing. I will do almost anything to avoid it. I have been known to play a little tug of war with family members who have tried to pull me out onto the dance floor at parties. I know it looks ridiculous when I do this, but I feel even more ridiculous when I dance. I just know people are laughing at me.

When Azita dances, though, I forget about all of that. I sing along with the music. She grabs my hands, and we dance together. I don’t care who is looking, nor do I care what they think. We dance with abandon. And it’s the best feeling in the world.

Wants and Needs

Azita turned a corner this morning. For a few weeks now she has been speaking in sentences. Well, she speaks two sentences in particular. “I am {insert some word here}”,  in “I am baby.” And, the one I hear most… “I want {insert some word, usually bow* or milk, here}.”  Throughout the day I hear everything she wants.

I want bow.

I want milk.

I want book.

I want shoes.

I want dis.

I want dat.

And so on. Then this morning at 5am, Azita jumped up in bed and shouted, “I NEED bow.” Yup. She now needs things, and by “things”, I mean “everything.” I thought this wasn’t supposed to happen until the dreaded teenaged years.

* For those who haven’t been following the chronicles of Azita, “bow” = pacifier. I know. And, no I have no idea, so don’t even ask.

Missed a Spot

The Hugging Bully

I like science fiction. This means I watch a lot of shows and movies on channels that are largely geared towards men. Thus, I see a lot of Viagra, Cialis, WWF and Ultimate Fighting Champions commercials. Have you seen this ultimate fighting business? It’s grown men acting like animals in a cage sort of thing. I only know this from commercials, so I can’t really describe this sport or whatever you call it with any authority. What I can say with authority is that someone needs to get some toddlers in that ring.

Seriously. Toddlers can kick some ass. They will walk up to a perfect stranger and kick them in the shins or punch them where it counts. They are no joke. And Azita is definitely a toddler. She kicks. She hits. She pulls hair. She scratches. The other day she tried to gouge my eyes out while she tackled me on the couch. All this with a pacifier in her mouth and a sweet expression on her face. What makes a toddler so dangerous is that they are so damn cute, you really never expect what’s coming.

Of course I don’t want Azita to grow up to be a violent jerk, so after reading the words of a few experts on the subject I came up with a strategy. I counter every act of violence with an act of love. If Azita head butts my face, I tell her it’s bad and ask her to give a kiss on the cheek. She scratches my arm, I ask her to pat my hand. She hits me in the gut, I ask for a hug. It’s all very simple. I’m trying to show her the nice way to physically interact with others. There’s also the added benefit that I get lots of hugs and smooches from my most favorite little girl in the world.

This afternoon when we picked Azita up from daycare, as I chatted with her caregivers, Azita walked over to her buddy Henry and hit him. I was kind of horrified. “Azita! No! We don’t hit!,” I said. Then Miss G, her favorite caregiver, said “Azita, go tell Henry you’re sorry.” Azita promptly walked over to Henry and gave him a big hug. It was at this point I noticed that Miss G had a big grin on her face. Apparently our sweet little toddler likes to play rough with the other kids then apologize with a hug or a kiss. “Azita is always hugging everybody,” says Miss G.

“Great!,” said Roger, as I recounted this to him in the car. “We’re going to be the parents of the only bully who gives her victims hugs after she punches them.”

Grrrrrrrrrr

Grrrrrrrrrr

The First Day of the Rest of My Life

Azita was in a frisky mood this morning, as she is most mornings. She wanted to play with every dangerous thing we have in our house — a still-hot, just-used iron; electrical cords that were plugged in; shredding scissors. If it could maim her or kill her, she wanted to play with it. As one might imagine, the words “No” and “Don’t Touch!” were shouted out several times. All par for the course though.

But then Azita said THE word. The word that changes everything. The word that suddenly made the rest of my life flash before my eyes — Why.

“NO, Azita! Don’t touch the iron! Hot! Ouch!,” I yelled in the most stern voice I could muster.

“Why?,” she responded.

It was very soft, barely a few decibels above a whisper. But something tells me I’ll be hearing a lot more of this word in a much louder and more insistent tone. I can now envision every future conversation I will have with my daughter. She will question everything I ever have to say. Today truly is the first day of the rest of my life.

I guess that’s fine. I much prefer an inquisitive child over one who blindly accepts what she is told. But, the one thing I hope she never questions is whether, why or how much I love her.

Lessons from the Playground

Since the weather has turned much warmer and mostly sunny, we’ve been taking Azita to the playground every day at least once. On nice days, she spends basically the entire day outside running around and burning off energy at daycare, so you can imagine how tired she is after we take her out for another hour when she gets home. Some nights she starts nodding off before we’re done eating dinner.

Maybe it’s that she’s so tired, but Azita is the funniest person on the playground. Maybe. I think it’s really that she has personality to spare.

We always start of at the little kids playground — the one for 2 to 5 year olds. That never lasts for very long. Within minutes Azita has run off across a large, mostly muddy and stony field, to the big kids playground. I’m amazed at her willingness to face the bigger and, to me, scarier.

When my sister and I were children, we were always so shy. Don’t get me wrong. We were definitely rough and tumble and fearless when it came to attempting physical stunts. But, we were happy to stay in a small space. It would never occur to us to talk to a child who talked to us, let alone approach one and talk to her. We spent a good deal of our time at the playground trying to hide our heads in the sand and avoid interacting with kids we didn’t know. Azita is no ostrich.

She runs up to kids she’s never seen and says “Hi”, and she tries to insert herself into their playground games. It doesn’t matter that she’s not even a year and half and these are 8 and 10 year olds. She is bold and brave and adventurous, and I admit that I beam with pride when I see this.

The best part is that she’s so funny. I love how she will run into the midst of a group of big kids playing tag and roar at the top of her lungs. And I mean roar. As in “RAAAAAAAAAAR.” Or how she’ll try to climb up onto the bottom of the slide, so she can collide with the kid coming down. Or how she’ll pick up a couple handfuls of mulch and throw it up in the air and spin around under it.

Her latest thing? Climbing up to the most tippy-top spot in the playground and yelling “DIIIEEEE.” It’s a bit scary I guess, but come on. She’s not really yelling “Die”, right? She’s only 15 months old. I’m pretty sure she’s never even heard the word. I’m not sure what she’s trying to say, but it cracks me up. Especially when the uptight yuppy moms with their $1000 strollers look horrified and scared.

It’s hard to stop myself from running up to Azita and giving her the biggest, tightest hug and most slobbery kiss I can muster. Not that I try to stop myself. I’m just so proud of her. And not worried. I know that when she’s a big girl, when she’s a woman even, she has the guts and the strength to make it through anything and the personality to back it up.

And dare I say it? I even admire her a little. You know, even a grown woman approaching 40 can learn a lot from a one year old if she really looks and listens.

Fairy Princess with Sippy Cup

I love how there’s always a little kookiness and edginess to temper Azita’s girly side. If she’s wearing a frilly dress, it’s bound to sport a few smears of mud and a smattering or two of mulch. She’ll let out a huge burp while batting her eyelashes. She can dance on her tippy toes around a room like a budding ballerina and two seconds later tackle me or her baba down to the ground to wrestle.

Or let’s say, for example, my cousin is renewing her vows and has a pretty, princess-y veil, and we happen to put it on Azita and try to take some pictures…

Azita will refuse to let go of her sippy cup, and she’ll look at the camera with a look of unadulterated disdain to remind us just how ridiculous we are to engage in such folly.

That look you see up there? I’m pretty sure I’m going to see a lot of that in about 15 years, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Learning Bad Language from Baby

Lately I’ve been talking like a baby. Actually it’s more than just lately. It’ been going on for about 6 years when my sister’s oldest son started talking. There’s something about the way babies butcher words that makes the words themselves so much more entertaining than when they are said with proper pronunciation. Now that both my sister and I have toddlers things have gotten really bad. I swear we could have a conversation in English and no one but us and our two babies would know what we are saying.

Rather than fix up our language, I think it would be easier if I gave the world a vocabulary lesson. Also, maybe someone can tell me how these girls think any of this stuff sounds like the actual words.

  • Beandeh = Phoenix
    My sister has a cat named, Phoenix, who is called Beandeh by my little niece and now the rest of her kids, her, her husband, and me.
  • Ehnendeh = Tinkerbell
    My niece, Ava, loves Tinkerbell, whom she calls Ehnendeh. Personally, I think Ehnendeh is a much more awesome name than Tinkerbell. Remember that weird guy who thought he was Peter Pan and became an Internet sensation. He had this whole website about his quest to find his very own Tinkerbell. Well, if he would jump on the Ava bandwagon, he could be on a quest to find his very own Ehnendeh. See? It sounds funnier does it?
  • Orsies = Horses
    Let’s face it. Orsies has a much nicer ring to it than horses.
  • Magbog = Maggie
    Maggie is one of our cats, and Azita calls her Magbog. I’ve decided to officially change her name to Magbog. She hides under something every time I call her that, but I figure she’ll eventually come around.
  • Bow = Buzz or anything other than Maggie that is furry and moves
    Azita has always loved Buzz the most. When she was just a few weeks old she would follow him around the room with her eyes and smile. In the past few weeks she’s been saying “Booowww” over and over. It finally dawned on me that she was looking at Buzz when she was saying it, and then I realized that she was calling any dog or cat, except for Maggie, Bow. And also, squirrels and pictures of furry animals. Now take a minute please to say out loud “Boooowwwww.” It’s fun, right? So, you understand then why I now choose to call all animals with fur “Booooowwwww.”
  • Moh = Milk
    This one goes way back. In fact, it’s the first thing Azita ever said, other than Mama and Baba. My favorite part of every day is when I hear her bare feet slapping against the floor with those teeny tiny footsteps towards the kitchen, where she stops by the fridge and repeatedly smacks it’s door, saying “Moh?’ She always says it like a question, with her voice rising up at the end. It’s so freakin’ cute that I almost always have to duck down and give her a giant, smothering hug while I kiss her little nose and those little chubby, rosy cheeks.

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t support baby talk. I know better. I usually talk to Azita with proper English. Usually. But I can’t help myself sometimes. Beandeh made me do it.

Portable Soundtrack

My life has been very hectic as of late, and things just seem to be going awry at every turn. Coincidentally, one of Azita’s favorite things to say lately is “uh-oh.” And she says it a lot.  I accidentally send an email to the wrong person. “Uh-oh.” I realize I’ve been walking around with broccoli in my teeth all day. “Uh-oh.” She has an uncanny way of saying it at the exact time I realize I’ve made a mistake or a complete ass out of myself. I’m starting to think she can read my mind or just catches on to a whole lot more than I give her credit for.

It’s almost like she’s become a portable soundtrack for my life at the moment. I have to admit that it’s kind of nice. There’s nothing like hearing a toddler say “uh-oh” in that cute, sing-songy voice to make a seemingly disasterous or embarrassing situation seem trivial and even funny.